So to begin with, I'm going to offend a load of people by suggesting that "New year, new me" is a load of bullshit in most cases. Before you all click off, or come for me, wafting your beauteous resolutions lists, hear me out and take a look at my argument.
The negative outlook
The fact that people make a pretty, productive list at the start of a new full orbit has puzzled me increasingly over the years, since through evidence I have found that in most cases: it's a gimmick and a lie which people kid themselves into believing.
Unless one actually applies action and effort into forming solid habits, with repetitive reminders to help them to complete an improvement, the flippant ideas such as "maybe this year I'll suddenly decide to be better at making my bed", are fairly pointless.
And on that note, making a big long lists of ideas such as these, with no time limit or end goal, are purely just statements set out to cause pointless stress and false hope.
I will insert a classic example (ironically) of my own "new years resolution" list from last year's blog post: My New Year's Resolutions
I can confidently say that I have achieved a mere 3 of those goals and the others were a complete flop because, guess what? I wanted to seem like I had my shit together by planning to be a better person, but instead couldn't be arsed to actually become the better person.
The positive outlook
On a more positive note, there is most certainly something useful about some resolutions, as long as the person writing them has the willpower to carry them out.
It is said to take anywhere from 30 days to about 200 days to form a habit, depending on how extensive the behaviour is and how much effort is put into completing it each day.
So those first 10 days of the new year when you feel so productive and think you're becoming a better person, need to carry on into the gloomy days of February before you can safely say you've given it a good go.
End goals also help massively! Create a time frame in which you will complete the goal and recieve its reward.
For example, I'm learning to drive, and to pass my driving test, I must first pass my theory test. But the problem is, I hate revising theory.
However, rather than setting my goal as
"I want to pass my theory test this year"
I would rather set myself a time-framed goal, I will book my theory test for a reasonable date in the future to allow me enough time for revision, but also to make sure I actually take action in order to complete my goal and give myself a firm kick up the bum.
on that note...
I'm now going to talk about some of my goals:
- Put more effort and thought into each blog post, of a topic that I enjoy and care about, ditch the flimsy filler posts.
As you may have noticed, this blog post is a different style to my usual posts, it's less 'airy fairy' and more of an 'opinion piece' you could say. I grew tired of the simple posts I was uploading which had no meaning or effort behind them, they were just blog posts for the sake of a blog post. I will be making an effort to create content that I am proud of and which gives an in depth idea of something I am interested in. I am also having no schedule! No dates or calendars to tie me down to getting something out there within 5 days, I want to flow with my writing and create posts as and when I wish to share my ideas.
- Make a conscious effort to be grateful for something every day.
I have a really bad habit of being overly negative which only hinders me and makes me feel worse. I am not trying to "be happier" or any of that rubbish because we all know I can't just magically do that. However, making an effort to notice something I am grateful for can improve my way of thinking immensely!
For now these are my main ideas to begin this new year with, and I can't wait to develop more. So on that note, bring on 2019! And don't take notice of my cynical old opinion, go ahead and make a fancy resolutions list, because I know I secretly will. ;)
Happy New Year!
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